They didn’t ask me to be in the praise band at my campus ministry this week and I’m so bummed/pissed. They asked this guy who basically keeps bailing and not being able to make practice because of his frat. He was really rude too in the group message asking everyone to please try to show up to practice on time so he can get as much in as possible before leaving 30 minutes later for dinner plans I guess… He’s the brother of one of my best friends so I can’t hate him, and ofc I don’t want to hate him but it’s so hard not to be upset. I know it’s not because they don’t want me that they didn’t ask me, it’s just about trying to give everyone a chance but dammit I’m 10 times more committed than this guy. I pour so much of myself into the band, showing up last minute, working hard to get over my social anxiety over performing in front of people because I actually fricking care so deeply about it. And I know that they aren’t just going to forget about me and I’ll probably get to play next week but it sure feels like I’m being replaced. This has been an amazingly unexpected outlet and safe place for growth for me lately and I’ve leaned on it harder than I realized. I just don’t like the fear that I’ll lose it.
A lot of people ask me for this, so… for all of you XD It isnt really a tutorial, i think, it’s just a “tip”(or something) It’s better if you look for your own photo references :_D
P.D: My english is pretty bad, so if you find an error please note me and i’ll correct it
Useful art reference I thought people might like (:
honestly fuck viruses they’re not even alive they’re just strands of punk ass DNA that go around fucking up us normal and god fearing life forms you don’t even have a nucleus you stupid bacteriophage looking horizontally transmitting RNA clump
A big failure mode – maybe the biggest – is punishing people for suffering.
You see someone suffering, you feel like you ought to help, but you don’t want to help, and therefore you are compelled to insist that they’re not suffering, or punish them for making you feel guilty, or paint them as a villain.
Examples include laws that outlaw being homeless in public, outlaw doing things that primarily poor people need to do to survive, make it hard for abused children to emancipate themselves, etc.
Also, social norms that make it okay to be mean to people just for being unhappy or lonely or frustrated in your presence.
In my book it’s not necessarily obligatory to help every suffering person. But it is important to not punish them out of spite. If you’re not going to help, at least don’t harm. This is hard for me sometimes, but it’s important. You have to be okay with somebody being upset or unfortunate in your presence; like, “yes, you’re unhappy, and there’s no way I’m going to fix that (either I can’t or I’m not willing to), but I’m not going to add to the problem by being mean to you.”
I’m working on this. If someone has a problem I’m not going to fix, just think “Okay.” Not “fuck you for having a problem at me.” Not “How dare you obligate me to help you.” Just… “Okay.” And don’t make it worse.
bringing this back because it’s so so important
you can’t help everyone. you can avoid being cruel to people who need help you can’t give.
